You fancy yourself courageous, autonomous, and grown up, even while telling a story of fear, dependence, incapacity, and imprudence. Facing a divorce, you quit your job without another job and move across country. You calculatedly and cynically throw off sexual restraint, which gives you qualms only over the economics but not the morals (except the token and self-congratulatory pro-life scruples). And even though you are convinced one third of women are sexually abused (your stat not mine), you can’t wait to get into a sexual relationship. By your own testimony, you are a child, an imbecile, incapable of judging your own actions by your own standards. At least you avow that your decision-making was shit, but then you promote those actions as an example for yourself and others.
"I got [the IUD] for myself as an autonomy present after my divorce."
I might — might — have more respect for you (i.e., some respect for you) if you had said, "The insurance got me an IUD, so I can screw whom I want without fear".
"That little inch of copper says my future is my own, body is my own..."
You read like a catechism extracted from a litany of 1970s Virginia Slims ads. That one inch of copper says your body belongs to every inch of dick you take inside you. Based on your pix, Hännah, I’d lend my several inches to that body, and I’d lend you my seed whilst looking in your cute eyes, but not for keeps, only in the knowledge that you have ensured my freedom from consequences, because you are not commitment material. Your ex was wise to escape your mercenary ways and get out of Dodge with his resources intact.
Hännah's lexicon:
Free = paid by insurance; lacking sexual restraints
Autonomy = lack of sexual restraints
Dependence = not being free to fuck whom she wants when she wants
Independence = access to resources that allow her to fuck whom she wants when she wants
Sexual abuse, sexual assault = the rolls in the hay and blow jobs she gave her previous bf; what she will call the ones she’s giving her current bf, after he breaks up with her for being a slut
Dating = extraction of resources from men; alternatively, having sex without the burden of commitment
Adult woman = a woman with her own place or her own car, which allow her to fuck whom she wants when she wants
Self-confidence = self-indulgence
Peace of mind = freedom from the consequences of sluthood
Power as an adult woman = reliance on others’ resources that allow her to fuck whom she wants when she wants
Unnecessary risk = child
Prediction: within a year, Hännah is in a lesbian relationship with no fear of pregnancy, sexual abuse, or patriarchal oppression, scraping by on wage jobs where there is no glass ceiling — i.e., completely autonomous, independent, and broke. Clare, meanwhile, has under Hännah’s tutelage totally said “Redact you!” to the patriarchy, cast aside all restraint, and fully explored and expressed her sexuality as a liberated woman. Accordingly, she is knocked up and alone, on WIC and housing assistance, yearning for some nice, homeschooled, patriarchally trained provider boy to come like a white knight and rescue a courageous single mom and her bastard child from self-inflicted poverty. You go, grrlz!"
Right. So, my initial reaction was to not even give this any attention, as that it what it is ultimately seeking. But the reality is that I can't do that. This is my friend he is talking about. I've never been of the ad Hominem variety, and though I want to be angry and remind him that "several inches" can still land below the national average penis size, I won't. But I do want to point out how clearly this is a demonstration of inhumanity, cruelty, and senseless inhibition.
"You fancy yourself courageous, autonomous, and grown up, even while telling a story of fear, dependence, incapacity, and imprudence. Facing a divorce, you quit your job without another job and move across country."
Where is this vice in this action? Even if she was fearful, dependent, incapacitated, and imprudent, her actions led her on a path to move beyond that. I am not going to pretend like I know all of the ins and outs of Hannah's decision, but I know this: Sometimes people just need a change of scene. And, what incapacity does he speak of, as she has managed to survive across the country, where she had no specific job lined up. Sounds like a lot of capable independence was developed. Perhaps she was afraid to stay in a city she hated without the man she had once loved. Perhaps she was not. Either way, her actions aren't a true demonstration of what Mr. Reyes. One could argue that assaulting another's character behind the safety of a keyboard is hardly a demonstration of courage. As for prudence, perhaps having one's entire life mapped along plans A, B, and C is not the only way to show care for the future. I cared about my future when I packed up and moved to Maryland. I didn't know that going to Maryland would result in Johns Hopkins attendance, but I am okay with how it worked out. Few would have called me imprudent.
" 'I got [the IUD] for myself as an autonomy present after my divorce.'
I might — might — have more respect for you (i.e., some respect for you) if you had said, "The insurance got me an IUD, so I can screw whom I want without fear".
Not all insurances cover IUDs. Fact: I have one, and it cost $800 out of pocket. I haven't a clue if this was the situation for Hannah, but specifically with IUD's this is a bit of a rude and condescending assumption. Oh, and I had good insurance. I'm not going to address the latter half of the comment, because it demonstrates a level of ignorance I simply haven't the energy to address.
"That one inch of copper says your body belongs to every inch of dick you take inside you."
No, that one inch of copper means that her uterus belongs to her, because she chose to put said copper there. It also means she is fairly safe from having a baby she doesn't want, something that Mr. Reyes could also experience with a simple surgery that we can only wish, hope, and pray he does.
I was raped two months after getting my IUD. The guy came inside of me. The mere fact that I was protected by my "one inch" means that I do not belong to him, and risked no further association with him.
"Based on your pix, Hännah, I’d lend my several inches to that body, and I’d lend you my seed whilst looking in your cute eyes, but not for keeps, only in the knowledge that you have ensured my freedom from consequences, because you are not commitment material."
It's interesting to me that this man can call Hannah a slut, and spew venom about her sexuality, yet can say he would feel fine casually fucking her with no consequence.
I need feminism because a man can call my friend a slut, and talk about his own casual, commitment-free sexuality, and there's no social discrepancy.
Also: "pix"
"Sexual abuse, sexual assault = the rolls in the hay and blow jobs she gave her previous bf; what she will call the ones she’s giving her current bf, after he breaks up with her for being a slut"
Like. Seriously find an actual physical way to fuck yourself and do it so hard you break your "several inches" off. Having experienced sexual assault, and having an understanding of what Hannah means by abuse and assault (see also: dictionary) this is hands down one of the cruelest things I have ever read, and just written as to try to cut this woman to the core.
"Prediction: within a year, Hännah is in a lesbian relationship with no fear of pregnancy, sexual abuse, or patriarchal oppression, scraping by on wage jobs where there is no glass ceiling — i.e., completely autonomous, independent, and broke."
Gotta love the derisive use of lesbianism. Also, lesbians can (oh wait, and do) experience patriarchal oppression and sexual abuse; these are not mutually exclusive to the glory that is heterosexuality. The man also goes on in this segment to shame users of WIC, even though this is a program many hard working families utilize this to survive and not kill their children. I guess not wanting your children to starve is shameful.
Perhaps this post is insufficiently substantive. I look at this as my own way to process what I had read, as writing has always been a way for me to understand what I think. Further, there is little need to rebut anything this man says, as one not need even peruse what he had to say to see the ruse that is his manhood and intelligence. There is so much more to say on this topic, but not as a response to venomous bullshit.
So with that, I am finished.
"That one inch of copper says your body belongs to every inch of dick you take inside you."
No, that one inch of copper means that her uterus belongs to her, because she chose to put said copper there. It also means she is fairly safe from having a baby she doesn't want, something that Mr. Reyes could also experience with a simple surgery that we can only wish, hope, and pray he does.
I was raped two months after getting my IUD. The guy came inside of me. The mere fact that I was protected by my "one inch" means that I do not belong to him, and risked no further association with him.
"Based on your pix, Hännah, I’d lend my several inches to that body, and I’d lend you my seed whilst looking in your cute eyes, but not for keeps, only in the knowledge that you have ensured my freedom from consequences, because you are not commitment material."
It's interesting to me that this man can call Hannah a slut, and spew venom about her sexuality, yet can say he would feel fine casually fucking her with no consequence.
I need feminism because a man can call my friend a slut, and talk about his own casual, commitment-free sexuality, and there's no social discrepancy.
Also: "pix"
"Sexual abuse, sexual assault = the rolls in the hay and blow jobs she gave her previous bf; what she will call the ones she’s giving her current bf, after he breaks up with her for being a slut"
Like. Seriously find an actual physical way to fuck yourself and do it so hard you break your "several inches" off. Having experienced sexual assault, and having an understanding of what Hannah means by abuse and assault (see also: dictionary) this is hands down one of the cruelest things I have ever read, and just written as to try to cut this woman to the core.
"Prediction: within a year, Hännah is in a lesbian relationship with no fear of pregnancy, sexual abuse, or patriarchal oppression, scraping by on wage jobs where there is no glass ceiling — i.e., completely autonomous, independent, and broke."
Gotta love the derisive use of lesbianism. Also, lesbians can (oh wait, and do) experience patriarchal oppression and sexual abuse; these are not mutually exclusive to the glory that is heterosexuality. The man also goes on in this segment to shame users of WIC, even though this is a program many hard working families utilize this to survive and not kill their children. I guess not wanting your children to starve is shameful.
Perhaps this post is insufficiently substantive. I look at this as my own way to process what I had read, as writing has always been a way for me to understand what I think. Further, there is little need to rebut anything this man says, as one not need even peruse what he had to say to see the ruse that is his manhood and intelligence. There is so much more to say on this topic, but not as a response to venomous bullshit.
So with that, I am finished.
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